Success is not everything!

“Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value.” –Albert Einstein

Anyone who has been following You 2.0 on this blog, or our social media platforms may think that we’re massive advocates of success and that success is the measure of your worth (however we hope that this is not the case!).

This is entirely untrue. Success is important, we won’t undermine that. But the whole point on You 2.0 is to encourage people like you, reading this, to simply make your lives count for something. Whether it be through your success, your own personal fulfilment, or for someone else’s benefit. Every life is a precious gift, and you should use it well!

Don’t get caught up in trying to be ‘successful’. Be valuable.

Tomorrow when you wake up in the morning, say to yourself that you’ll go out of your way to help someone today. Or set a personal goal and achieve it – then revel in how that makes you feel. Make it your mission to smile more, or to compliment someone, or to get up and go for a run.

Stop stressing about whether or not your life is worth something and just do whatever makes you happy. If you stop over-thinking and start taking action you will witness a profound change in your mood and your lifestyle! Just go for it!

Stay Positive,

The Team at You 2.0.

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Reasons Why You Should Let Go

A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the “half empty or half full” question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: ”How heavy is this glass of water?”

Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.

She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn’t change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.”

She continued, “The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything.”

It’s important to remember to let go of your stresses. As early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don’t carry them through the evening and into the night. Remember to put the glass down!

We here at You 2.0 are absolutely LOVING this motivational talk. A major problem with the world these days is that we continue to hold on to these ‘stresses’ and never give ourselves a break. Having some down time is super important for your mental, emotional, and physical health!

  • Constantly stressing can affect your sleeping habits, which we all know can be really detrimental to how we look and feel every day!
  • Stressing makes you super grumpy – nobody likes a grumpy pants!
  • Stressing is counter-productive! More often than not, you’ll find that stressing too much about something can make you “paralyzed” and simply unable to do things because you can’t think straight!

Here are some tips to de-stress and relax before bed, or any time really:

  1. Take up reading – If you don’t already read – you should! And read an actual, paperback novel and NOT an electronic device. If you read before bed you can relax your mind by immersing yourself in a fantasy/story you’re interested in, whilst also relaxing your eyes from all the electronic devices we use from day to day!
  2. Have a hot bath – Make time to actually take a bath for once! Even better: make it fun by having a bubble bath! Sitting back and relaxing or being a kid again with the bubbles for a minute is a great way to let go of your troubles.
  3. Listen to mellow music – Create a sleep playlist. If you have an mp3 player or music device with a sleep function, set it all up to play for about an hour. Keep the volume low, and the tracks mellow. Songs without words are preferred, but sometimes I find that listening to songs with words puts me to sleep as I follow the song, kind of like counting sheep!

Do you have any tips you want to share with us? We’d love to know!

Story from: http://academictips.org/blogs/let-go-of-your-stresses/

Today…

Today is never really a bad day. It’s all in your head!

Today my best friend stated she was having a bad day. It was 7:40AM. The day had barely even started. However the moment she decided that today was a bad day, she begun to experience a series of unfortunate events that led her to feel more and more like the day was ‘jinxed’. But is it really?

Today, I jammed my finger in the door of a bathroom cubicle. But is it a bad day? No. Aside from the fact that being clumsy forces you to accept similar unfortunate occurrences as a regular thing – it is still up to me as to whether or not I let it ruin my day. And while my finger throbs a little as I write this, I refuse to let the pain ruin my day. As they say: make today your “bitch”.

Today, what will you do to make today your “bitch”?

Oh yeah!

Aside

“If you accept the expectations of others, especially negative ones, then you never will change the outcome.” – Michael Jordan

You 2.0 recently asked our followers on Facebook how the expectations of others affect their expectations of themselves, if even at all.

The response I received opened up an interesting thought. It seems the line between what we expect of ourselves and what others expect of themselves is warped and blurred. Sometimes our expectations are shaped by how we want people to see us, or they can be imposed by others and you just listen. There are so many ways that our thought processes deal with the expectations of others that it begs the question – can you ever really have a pure, uninfluenced expectation of yourself?

“Personally, I find that my expectations of myself are shaped by those of my parents. I don’t think this is a bad thing, but it certainly is a confusing thing. When I stop to think about what i want of myself, it more often than not will coincide with what my parents want of me – and i’m not sure if this is because I have never learned to create my own standards, or if I am just being mature and taking advice from someone who is experienced, and knows me as well as I know myself. But is doing what your told mature, or should we force ourselves to branch out and leave our comfort zone – just to make sure that there are no “what if”‘s?” – Anthea, You 2.0 Admin.

“For me, its like a cycle. First I worry about what other people expect of me and then I’m like ‘no just worry about what you expect of yourself’ and then it goes back to ‘well what I expect of myself is closely tied in with what people expect of me!’. I think that on some level I subconsciously check myself against a version of me that I am happy for people to see and know, if that makes any sense. So in a way, I don’t think people ‘place’ their expectations on me but I place them on myself.” – Korina, Facebook Follower.

Being a blog that’s all about motivation doesn’t mean that we hold all the answers. Sometimes you just have to search within yourself to find the answer, and the true path you should take. This is just one of those things that we all go through, and we all have to think about at some point in our lives.

So tell us: what are your experiences and advice on dealing with expectations?

“If you want to find the trail, if you want to find yourself, you must explore your dreams alone. You must grow at a slow pace in a dark cocoon of loneliness so you can fly like wind, like wings, when you awaken.” 
― Francesca Lia Block, Dangerous Angels

Tips for Exercise Motivation – As Suggested by YOU!

Our lovely Facebook followers suggested these excellent tips for exercising for your benefit! Get started, and get motivated today!

1. Update Your Playlist: Get some of your favourite, upbeat tracks at the moment and put them on your music-playing device of choice! Walking and running is easier with a beat to walk to. Try it, and you’ll see that when you exercise with music your subconscious will usually make you walk to the beat of the song you’re listening to! Not to mention its just that much more fun!

Let’s face it: Music is awesome!

2. Create a Habit: This is especially for those who feel like they don’t have the time to get into an exercise routine. Make in your aim to do a little bit every day – a 15-30 min power-walk, or maybe try riding a bike to the supermarket, or to university! If you get into a habit, then you’ll fall into a routine and you’ll feel empty without it! As you get into it, you can up the ante a little bit every few days and work harder or for longer. You’ll find time you never had and gain a newfound energy to face every day!

This guy is loving it! Maybe you should try riding to work?

3. Get a Gym Buddy – Your bestie, your mum, your sibling… maybe even your dog! Grab someone to take with you to the gym. If not the gym, go for  a run with your dog! He’ll surely love you for it. Not only is this helpful for your health, but also your social life! It will make exercising a little more fun, and also you can feed off each other. If you need an extra push, get your friend to hound you if you say you “don’t feel like going to the gym today” – works a charm!

Werk It!

 4. Use a Reward System – Reward yourself however you see fit. Choose a relaxing thing to do after the gym as you cool down. Maybe for every hour of exercise, you might watch an episode of your favourite series, or in the summer you can reward yourself by a dip in the pool, or a warm bubble bath in the winter.

Maybe a spa for the weekend will to the trick…

5. Get it Out of The Way Early – If you wake up that little bit earlier in the morning to make time for a quick burst of exercise, you never waste any of your day! You’ll also find that getting into this habit will make you more alert and fresh during the day, especially after your post-workout shower! Everyone knows that exercising is the best wake up call for your body and mind. Don’t forget to stretch before doing anything too vigorous, though!

Well said, buddy.

6. Technology is Your Friend – Our lovely followers suggested GymAdvisor, and RunKeeper. Which are both great tools! Do you have any suggestions? Let us know in the comments! Check out some of the top fitness apps here.

We have a surprise for you…

This little link may not look like much….

 

http://kudo.io/motivate

 

But you’ll thank us later!

 

Stay Positive!

The You 2.0 Team.

Top 10 Tips to Get Started on Assignments.

“The greatest amount of wasted time is the time not getting started.”
Dawson Trotman

A big dilemma for students these days is finding the motivation to start an assignment. Being a student myself I often struggle with this, and have learnt what works and what doesn’t work from all my assignment experiences over the years! So in response to many followers  who have expressed concerns on this issue – I’ve decided to investigate the BEST WAYS TO GET STARTED ON ASSIGNMENTS!

Don’t be like this guy!

  1. Plan out how long it will take – This is the first step that often takes longer than it should to do! Often we think about how to get started and what we SHOULD do, and how long it will take, how much effort it will take (and then how we can complete it with the least amount of effort!). The main thing is to look at the task – say an essay of 1500 words – and decide on your level of understanding of the assigned task to determine how long you think it will take you to do. a good rule is to always add an extra day as a buffer!
  2. Get changed into comfortable clothing – It seems like an unnecessary step, but it makes a big difference. You can become easily distracted by tight jeans cutting into you as you sit, or a top that you constantly have to re-adjust. You may choose to wear your trackies or your comfy pyjamas – but make sure if you do wear your pyjamas  that you change into them, and not just wear them from the morning, because this can make you lazy and not get you in the awake frame of mind that is ready to do work! Also if you have hair falling on your face clip/tie it back!
  3. Clear, comfortable workspace – Sit at a desk, and make sure it’s clear. Clear of mess and of distractions. Think of it like a metaphor for how clear your brain will be in order to get started on this little bugger of an assessment!
  4. Let everyone know – Be that person: make sure that everyone knows you’re busy and don’t want to be distracted. I always find that when i don’t let people know that I really have work to do I end up putting it off because i’ve been asked to do things or go places for other people and won’t say no. If you tell your friends, family, housemates etc. that you have a big assignment coming up, they are more likely not the bother you with tempting offers of coffee dates or annoy you with jobs to do.
  5. Cut down on the electronics – Turn off your phone. Throw it across the room. Give it to your mother (shock horror!). Just get rid of it! As for your laptop, more often than not you’re going to need it for whatever your doing and it that’s the case, you should try and keep your wi-fi off! Maybe try doing all your research first to avoid using the internet as you write an essay, or if you have access to a printer – print out your sources and highlight/make notes so you can write with a clear head and NO INTERNET!
  6. Begin – some prefer to start with the harder aspects first, others the opposite – the truth is, everyone is always going to have their own way of doing things that works for them, so find out what works for you and stick to it!
  7. Set achievable goals – The task can seem so daunting at first when none of it is done, but the more you push through, the easier it becomes! Say you will write 100 words every 15 minutes, or whatever you like to help you pace yourself and feel more positive about the task. I often check how many words are left to accentuate the relief of having written more whenever the number gets smaller! Maybe try timing yourself to add a bit of fun and motivate you! Also make sure you write up a schedule of what you’ll complete each day (as long as you followed this advice and didn’t start it the day before!).
  8. Reward Yourself – Have a short break as a reward for your concentration. Go get a healthy snack (brain food!), do some star jumps, listen to your favourite song… but be careful – don’t be gone for too long!
  9. Will power. – Remind yourself how good you’ll feel when the work is done. Maybe even try convincing yourself it’s due tomorrow so you just get it done and then have more time to read over and perfect your work!
  10. Find out what works best for you – You might like to listen to music while studying/working as it helps you pace yourself and tune out other noises. You might like to try working with a friend so you can feed off each other with ideas and help make the task seem less daunting. These are just some examples of different ways that people may choose to study, but they don’t work for everyone! Sometimes these techniques can be counter-productive so watch out!

What are you favourite ways to get focussed and just start a big task? Let us know in the comments!